Wednesday, March 17, 2010
 

15 Tips To Have A Classy Wedding On A Budget

I wrote posts throughout our wedding planning process detailing the decisions and options that went in to each choice. Many of the other posts have great ideas threaded through the comments, so be sure to check out the complete Vancouver Wedding on a Budget series of posts. Below is a summary of my top 15 ideas.

Jen and I got married on the weekend, and I strived right from the beginning to do the wedding on a budget. Jen wanted her pretty day in white, but after being previously married I knew the marriage was more important than blowing $20 000 on a piss up with friends and family.

I was a hard ass on keeping the whole thing to a reasonable figure, $7 000 was the number I tossed out and when all is paid out later this week we’ll have done it for closer to $5 000.

Seriously.

I did have some help from friends connected to various wedding services we needed, that helped cut down our costs considerably, but all of these tips are all valuable and easily executed by anyone getting married to save serious money.

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Photos by Carolyn Egerszegi Photography. No Use Without Permission. All Rights Reserved.

1. LET’S DO LUNCH
By getting married at 11a, and having a luncheon wedding we cut down on many expenses all in one swoop.

First: lunch menus are cheaper than dinner menus.
Second: people don’t drink as much at lunch as they do at dinner.
Third: the party had to end by 3:30p because the venue was being used for an evening wedding, that cut down on the bill.
Fourth: no DJ. This isn’t a high school sock hop.

If the afternoon thing seems a little lame and you want to have a raucous party, you could always do a formal luncheon, cut out to do some photos and then reconvene at a friends house to do it up BYOB style.

2. NO KIDS
Sure, kids meals are cheaper than adult meals, but by eliminating children from your guest list you’re cutting about $10 a head off the list and saving all your guests the stress of chasing after little ones.

We approached all our guests with children (which was nearly all of them) and asked them individually how they felt about this. With a guest list that would have had 20 children under the age of 5 and only 50 adults, all our friends were grateful to have an adult afternoon. This is a wedding, not a birthday party.

2009-07-04 wedding exif 3. GET MARRIED IN A PARK
Most parks offer free and easy to access for a wedding. Promise not to make a mess, or set out too many chairs, blast music or get in anyone’s way and you can have your 20 minute ceremony without any hassle (or cost).

Our Ferguson Point wedding in Stanley Park was right across the street from where we had the reception and at a perfect location for photos. Everything was in one place and we didn’t have to pay a facility fee. (things may be changing for weddings in Stanley Park)

By getting married in a beautiful park surrounded by sea, trees and flowers, you don’t have to pay for costly venue decorations that will be up for all of 20 minutes.

4. MAKE YOUR OWN WEDDING FAVOURS
We got married at The Teahouse. What goes better with tea than cookies? I asked my grandmother to make us cookies for a wedding gift. We placed them in hurricane lamps and had people take them when they left. The bags were simple brown paper bags we had our 2 yr old son decorate with finger paint. Personal and cute and just $5 for 100 bags.

5. STAY OUT OF THE WEDDING AISLE
When looking for decorations or supplies for your wedding, stay the heck away from anything labelled WEDDING. They see you coming a mile away and jack up the prices faster than you can say “I do!” Wander into the regular corners of your craft and decor store and you’ll find much better items in all the colours that are suitable for weddings, without the price tags.

For example, at Michaels you’ll pay $16 for 12 gift bags in the wedding aisle. Head over to the candy/party aisle and you can get 100 for $6.

6. SPREAD THE WORD
Use your social networks to ask for advice of your friends (both real and online). Having trouble finding a photographer? Put it in your Facebook profile and get input from the internet. Exploit your 6 degrees of separation. The web is how I found both my wedding photographer and celebrant.

20090704 wedding iPhone 7. HAVE YOUR RECEPTION AT A RESTAURANT
The decorations are built in, the tables are set up, the silverware and stemware match, the kitchen is up to speed. Restaurants get fresh flowers in each week and, honestly, there’s not much you need to do. You could leave it as is, and it would be beautiful.

8. CATER IT YOURSELF
The flip side of the restaurant wedding, is having it in a big hall. Much like I had my grandmother bake the cookies for favours, I’ve heard stories of weddings that had nanas doing the food or everyone going pot luck style. A hall with a kitchen will give you the flexibility to freestyle on the food.

9. DIY INVITES
I took a photo of the Eiffel Tower the day we got married. I dropped it into iPhoto with my MacBook and made 50 copies of the postcard with the wedding invitation on the back. They were all personal and done with ease for about $1 each.

10. GET A FREE WEBSITE
Instead of printing up guides for your guests coming to town, and maps of the venue and having reply cards in your invites, you can create a free website/blog and have your guests interact with you there. Wordpress and Blogger are two of the easiest free options. Simply get brideandgroom.wordpress.com or hisandhers.blogspot.com and included it on your invitations. Google Docs has an easy to use form that will populate your RSVPs in a spreadsheet so you can track food allergies and replies as they come in.

The website will also let you post fun videos, photos and blog entries as you’re planning the wedding.

If the website is too complicated, and all your guests are on Facebook, you could even simply create a Facebook Event page for your wedding and have everyone invited and RSVP that way.

20090704 wedding (32) 11. GET THE FLOWERS AT A GROCERY
We had our flowers done at Whole Foods. And they were BEYOND gorgeous. Florists were quoting us at near $200 for a bridal bouquet, Whole Foods got it done closer to $75. Jen brought in a photo of the bouquet she wanted from a magazine, and they matched it perfectly. Our entire floral cost was $350. That included 10 centerpieces, 8 corsage / bouts and the bridal bouquet and they were all beyond stunning.

Jen wanted to walk over a path of petals when she entered the park. We had the store save the dying and wilted flowers they couldnt sell and they ripped the heads off for $5 a HUGE bag. Done.

12. DON’T GET A CAKE
If you get the right menu at the restaurant, dessert is often included in the meal. The cake is just there for show, and nobody ever remembers what it looks like. If you really want to have the cutting ceremony, then just walk up to a high end grocer or baker and pull out of their cooler the day before the wedding. I found a beautiful 7″ coconut cake for $25 at Whole Foods.

13. DON’T HAVE A WEDDING PARTY
Nobody really wants to wear a sea foam green dress and get their shoes dyed to match. By eliminating the wedding party, not only do you remove the cost of frivolous dresses, but you also cut down on flower costs since they don’t need corsages. I’m not saying you shouldnt have bridesmaids, or a best man, but does everyone really need to be so matchy matchy? Let them wear what they want when they stand beside you.

14. LIMIT THE GUEST LIST
55 people. That’s all we had. Closest of friends, a few cousins and family. That’s it. There’s no need to invite colleagues, clients, friends of friends, people from high school, etc etc. We kept the list tight to the people who are the most important and it kept the costs down.

15. DITCH THE TUX
Renting can have it’s place at a wedding to cut down costs, but when you look at whether or not you can re-use things after the wedding, sometimes buying is better. For our wedding chairs, we bought 8 from Ikea that will double as patio chairs when we have barbecues, or extra seating at Christmas dinner. For my suit, we bought a new shirt and tie and had one of my older suits tailored. All those for the same cost as renting an outfit, but this is one I get to keep and wear again

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  • Great tips indeed. I will bookmark this for my future plans :)

    Having a tight budget in a wedding is really hard especially if you want a unique one so I think this tips will be a big help for those couples who are planning to get married.
  • Isabelle Lee
    Great tips! Thanks! I did exactly what you suggested for a photographer.. and I must share with you all that an overwhelming amount of people suggested Butter Media. I met with them and looked at some of their work. It was amazing. I will definately be going with them. If anyone is looking for a photographer, you should definately check them out.

    http://www.buttermedia.ca

    Cheers!
  • Chaline
    Thanks for the great tips! Our wedding is in Tofino next September and we invited 50 people to share our special day. Buying your bouquet and centerpieces at a grocery store is an excellent idea. I was thinking of going to the VCC bakery shop to see if their students could make my cake but I like the Whole Foods idea as well.
  • Jennifer
    Hi I'm the Bride, Jennifer

    I'm very surprised by the negative comments from Yalda. In no way was our wedding 'unnecessarily cheap' or 'tacky'. It was very elegant, tasteful and to our budget. Which we both agreed on.

    I sourced the florist, and found that Whole Foods in W.Van was amazing. The service of the ladies in the floral department was beyond what I found at local floral shops. They bent over backwards to get Peonies for me, since that was my flower of choice. I would highly recommend them over any floral shop in the city. To me service is what counts, and what people talk about, and tell their friends about. I found Whole Foods had all of that, and the best prices which were an added bonus. If I decided to pick flowers from our garden, and used those flowers. That would be extra special to me as well, since they grew from OUR garden. Flowers have to have meaning to you, not where you buy them. Enough said to this..

    As for a DJ, it didn't fit to our wedding, since we had a lunch service. Nor did we want one. We wanted our guest to enjoy an elegant tasteful lunch service, and I think the Teahouse did just that. More than half our friends have children, so we decided to do a lunch instead of a dinner, so people could have their evening free to spend with their family. As well, we had plans that evening to fly to Victoria so it just worked out.

    As for the photographer. We had a brilliant and energetic photographer named Carolyn, she captured and created moments, that I'll have for the rest of my days. Thanks Carolyn!!

    As to feeling like the most special bride on the planet, if you could have seen the way my husband looked at me that day, and everyday. That made me feel like the most beautiful person in the world. I couldn't care less where or how we got married. I'm just happy we chose each other and spent a great afternoon with friends and family. We could have gotten married anywhere and spent a ton of money but it wouldn't have made the day any better by spending more money.

    I was just so happy to marry Buzz the way we wanted to do it.
  • I agree with Buzz.. yalda, what you said sounds very shallow indeed. Not every girl in the world feels that being spent on is equal to happiness. Nor is every girl in the world as narcissistic as to need to feel as if they're the most "special girl on the planet." And not every wedding is just about the girl, nor should it be. It's about two people, not one.
  • yalda
    I do agree with some of your tips like the no kid policy and having it in a park or restaurant sure why not , no need to spend tons of money for the venue whoever some of your tips just surprised me how unnecessary cheap your wedding ceremony must have been! while i dont believe in wasting money for one big ceremony but i do feel bad for your bride if your wedding was really this cheap. no DJ? are you serious? GET THE FLOWERS AT A GROCERY? oh my goodness i feel really bad for a bride that get her flowers from safeway ! or maybe you picked them up from your garden! no photographer? why not just a cheap photography instead of none. your iphone or normal camera can never capture the moment as beautiful as professional camera. There is no need to spend so much money for the wedding day however some expense is necessary to make your bride feel like the most special girl on the planet. afterall this is her day so by spending just tiny bit of money like getting a cheap dj, photographer, florist, and smaller guest list you could have had a small yet beautiful and not so cheap and tacky wedding .
    just sayin!
  • do I *really* need to tell you how ridiculously shallow and judgemental you sound in this comment?

    Jennifer and I planned the day TOGETHER. We chose everything TOGETHER. Have a look at the wedding photos - we got a brilliant photographer to do them and our ceremony was anything but tacky.

    Have a look at the flowers, they were BEYOND gorgeous.

    In the end, this is our day, not yours, ours. We loved it. It was perfect, it was beautiful and we're happy.

    Had we decided to wear cut offs and serve Kraft dinner at the reception should be of no concern to you. We're happy and that's all that matters.

    I hope you enjoy your wedding day, and paying it off for the months to follow. If that's what you want, then that's what you should have.
  • Congrats Buzz and Jen - Jen you look gorgeous! I agree completely, it's not about how much money you spend, but about creating the perfect day for you, the couple, without the stress of getting in over your head financially!
  • Kat
    Fantastic post Buzz!

    I was in a friends wedding 2 years ago - they were both in their mid-late 20s - both just finishing school and starting new careers...and the wedding bill was OVER $20,000 (her dress alone was $6000 on sale)...Both sets of parents did chip in, but the majority of it came out of their pockets...

    Um hello *waving* DOWN PAYMENT on a HOUSE maybe? Or travel the way you keep saying want to travel but now can't afford b/c you're paying off your 6 hour wedding?

    I couldn't believe it...just stunned...even more so when she said that the 2 bridesmaids (myself included) had to pay for our own dresses/hair/makeup b/c they were overbudget on flowers...yeah...that was great!

    And, your wedding looked like it was much more fun and relaxed that hers was ;)

    Congrats again!
  • Great tips Buzz. So on the subject of party favors; you mean to say, MOST people get them MADE? Damn, I got suckered into making them for 3 of my friends parties! Damn. It looks like you had a marvelous day with wonderful memories. Shows that you dont have to spend $$$$$$ to have a "perfect" wedding. If ever I should wed, I will do it as inexpensively as possible! :D
  • Hi Buzz,

    I LOVED your article - especially tips #9, 10 and 11. Making a wedding "adults only" is a great idea - I just wonder how it can be done without offending anyone.

    In any events, thank you for the great article Buzz, and congratulations!
  • It was a tough call for us, since all our friends have kids. We did have some there, but they were family or out of towners. Locals were asked to not bring them, and all the parents heartily agreed - they liked having some grown up time.

    The best way to tackle the subject is to talk with each couple individually to gauge response. Had we had local kids at our wedding, we would have had upwards of 20 under the age of 5 vs 50 adults. That's what I mean by "it's a wedding, not a birthday party."
  • Nicola W
    Thank you for sharing these tips, I've passed them on to a number of friends. I especially like the one about not having a wedding party. Matching dresses from a wedding shop just send costs upward !

    ~ N
  • Buzz..

    Thanks for the hot tips. I am getting married next summer and we're just starting to go through the motions for planning. I especially like the invitation idea.
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