What Did You Do With Your First Wedding Photos?

When Jen and I get married this weekend, some things will be a little familiar to me. You see, I’ve been married before.

It was a tragic 13 month mistake a few years ago that never should have happened – but it did. Thankfully there were no children involved (she already had a daughter) and the cleanup, while confrontational during negotiations, didn’t really cause too much trouble.

I was able to wipe the slate clean of my ex and that brief moment in time pretty easily, but some details still remain. Like the wedding photos.

What do you do with those photos from your past? It’s part of my personal history, it’s part of what makes me the person I am today.

Do I delete them? Do I burn them to disc and bury them in a box? Do I print them off and burn them in a bonfire?

delete wedding photos

This wasnt a hard decision for me, I hit delete.

While vacation and party pictures with my ex are archives of my everyday life and places I’ve been and serve as great souvenirs of the world, or how I wore my hair, I don’t need to see the pictures of me making promises to someone else.

We have photos to relive emotions and memories. Happily, that day is one I don’t want to relive, so the pictures are irrelevant.

July 4, 2009 is the important day. That’s the one I will want to relive. These are the memories I will cherish.

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Tanya (aka NetChick)

Hey Buzz... I wish you and Jen much, much, much happiness! Congrats (a day early) on the wedding!

I'm in a similar boat -- I have printed copies of the photos. I'm not sure why I keep them, but I was also with him for 13 years, so that was a significant chunk of my life. But, I don't wistfully look at them, and it was my decision to end the marriage. Come to think of it, he didn't want them either. Hmmm... I think I'll do some purging.

VancityAllie

I think it is a really nice gesture towards your soon-to-be-wife.

Good luck with your wedding tomorrow and I can't wait to see the photos!

eternalcanadian

I agree with Michael Kwan. While your first marriage may be something you want to erase from your life it always will be a part of you. Your first wedding day likely was the happiest day of your life at that time. I would have saved a few pictures, including one with the step-daughter (never underestimate the power of a father-figure in a young girl's life however short) and put them away in a safe place where other memories of a past life are stored and not readily available.

Blessings and good luck as you start this newest journey of your life this weekend. :-)

Michael Kwan

Having never been married, I am perhaps the least qualified to chime in on this subject. That said, I am hesitant to delete anything. The deletion, by and large, is forever and it's a decision that you may choose to regret down the road. You never know where life's road may take you. At the time, you were probably pretty sure she was the right one. That's why you got married. Months later, you learned that wasn't the case. Mistake or not, it was an important part of your life.