Comments on: The Prisoner’s Dilemma For Working Parents http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/ spread the word, ya heard? Fri, 5 Sep 2008 15:12:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: buzz http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1299 buzz Wed, 21 May 2008 03:44:44 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1299 Thanks Ashley. I had a GREAT talk with the people today. My mom managed a long term care facility for elderly patients with dementia, so she has a lot of experience dealing with demanding families. She said to just say what was on your mind, and trust that the place you've chosen will respect your wishes. You can't stay silent. So I expressed everything and they were very open to hearing about it. In the end, it comes to me being a first time parent and this being Z's first week away. Jen and I think back to our first week in the hospital with him and the questions we asked were RIDICULOUS. We're kind of being the same way now. I expressed my concerns, I've gotten Z some extra love at daycare, and now I'm going to chill out and let my son get out there and be a little boy. Thanks Ashley.

I had a GREAT talk with the people today. My mom managed a long term care facility for elderly patients with dementia, so she has a lot of experience dealing with demanding families.

She said to just say what was on your mind, and trust that the place you’ve chosen will respect your wishes. You can’t stay silent.

So I expressed everything and they were very open to hearing about it. In the end, it comes to me being a first time parent and this being Z’s first week away. Jen and I think back to our first week in the hospital with him and the questions we asked were RIDICULOUS. We’re kind of being the same way now.

I expressed my concerns, I’ve gotten Z some extra love at daycare, and now I’m going to chill out and let my son get out there and be a little boy.

]]> By: Ashley http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1297 Ashley Wed, 21 May 2008 02:02:48 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1297 Bring up your concerns to the staff. I work in childcare (in infant/toddler care actually) and I am shocked by some of the things you mentioned. He definately should not be soaking through a diaper! Does your daycare record everything that he's eating/drinking during the day? I've found this is a must in the under 3 age set. Request that they try to get him back down when he wakes up from his little cat naps. There's a difference between the overbearing parents who have a complaint every time they walk through the door and the parent who is concerned over the quality of care. Ask to speak to the supervisor if you're not comfortable speaking right to the staff. As for the bumps and scratches - they happen. And as he becomes more mobile they'll become more frequent. Most Daycare's (and all should) have a family centered care approach and should be working with the family to provide the best care they can for the children. Bring up your concerns to the staff. I work in childcare (in infant/toddler care actually) and I am shocked by some of the things you mentioned. He definately should not be soaking through a diaper! Does your daycare record everything that he’s eating/drinking during the day? I’ve found this is a must in the under 3 age set. Request that they try to get him back down when he wakes up from his little cat naps. There’s a difference between the overbearing parents who have a complaint every time they walk through the door and the parent who is concerned over the quality of care. Ask to speak to the supervisor if you’re not comfortable speaking right to the staff. As for the bumps and scratches - they happen. And as he becomes more mobile they’ll become more frequent. Most Daycare’s (and all should) have a family centered care approach and should be working with the family to provide the best care they can for the children.

]]> By: buzz http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1286 buzz Tue, 20 May 2008 05:43:41 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1286 thanks dany, we put our names on every daycare list in our area. we went to some home interviews, and the situations were worse - one person to look after all the kids. we take z to a community centre where there are many adults to look after the children - it's just an angst filled first week, we'll get through it, just like we did the first week we brought z home. thanks dany, we put our names on every daycare list in our area. we went to some home interviews, and the situations were worse - one person to look after all the kids. we take z to a community centre where there are many adults to look after the children - it’s just an angst filled first week, we’ll get through it, just like we did the first week we brought z home.

]]> By: dany http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1285 dany Tue, 20 May 2008 03:48:54 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1285 Have you thought about looking for home daycare my first daycare provider had my dd and her own 2 kids and it worked out well....she went on Mat leave so I looked into a daycare I found on craigslist and she has 3 kids all 2.5-5 and they get so much time and just energy spent on them it is amazing....try posting on this site http://www.parentsinbc.ca/default.asp they have tons of people always posting! Have you thought about looking for home daycare my first daycare provider had my dd and her own 2 kids and it worked out well….she went on Mat leave so I looked into a daycare I found on craigslist and she has 3 kids all 2.5-5 and they get so much time and just energy spent on them it is amazing….try posting on this site http://www.parentsinbc.ca/default.asp

they have tons of people always posting!

]]> By: buzz http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1280 buzz Tue, 20 May 2008 01:58:05 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1280 @Kat - if you can believe it, we know someone with a live in that we wanted to share with for maybe 5hrs/day. They would have gotten a FULL live in nanny for less than $1000 / mo, once we put up our share - they said no. @Kat - if you can believe it, we know someone with a live in that we wanted to share with for maybe 5hrs/day.

They would have gotten a FULL live in nanny for less than $1000 / mo, once we put up our share - they said no.

]]> By: Kat http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1279 Kat Tue, 20 May 2008 01:15:00 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1279 One of my friends did "nanny share" for all the reasons you just listed...not sure if you've looked into it or not...I think the nanny lived in with her friend (b/c they didn't have a suite either) and then was either at the friends house with the kids, or her house with the kids. She'd doing it again when she goes back from mat leave for kid #2 in the fall. One of my friends did “nanny share” for all the reasons you just listed…not sure if you’ve looked into it or not…I think the nanny lived in with her friend (b/c they didn’t have a suite either) and then was either at the friends house with the kids, or her house with the kids. She’d doing it again when she goes back from mat leave for kid #2 in the fall.

]]> By: Tara.Jean http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1278 Tara.Jean Mon, 19 May 2008 19:16:01 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1278 Is there such thing as an "encouraging downer", if there is, that's you. Thanks for getting me thinking well in advance.... xoxo tj Is there such thing as an “encouraging downer”, if there is, that’s you.

Thanks for getting me thinking well in advance….

xoxo
tj

]]> By: ~Dena http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1277 ~Dena Mon, 19 May 2008 17:52:04 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1277 We are expecting baby #1 in October and I am self-employed. That means NO mat leave for me at all. Plus, husband works up north in a mine, so he's away for 2 weeks, and home for 2 weeks. I have absolutely no idea what we'll do. We are expecting baby #1 in October and I am self-employed. That means NO mat leave for me at all. Plus, husband works up north in a mine, so he’s away for 2 weeks, and home for 2 weeks. I have absolutely no idea what we’ll do.

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1276 Jeremy Mon, 19 May 2008 16:49:26 +0000 http://www.buzzbishop.com/blog/2008/05/19/the-prisoners-dilemma-for-working-parents/#comment-1276 sounds like quite the challenge. I am happy that my girl works for the government and get s so much mat leave and Nana lives close by. I dropped my baby in the laundry hamper yesterday ... yikes. sounds like quite the challenge. I am happy that my girl works for the government and get s so much mat leave and Nana lives close by.

I dropped my baby in the laundry hamper yesterday … yikes.

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